The obit headline reads: Martin D. Ginsburg dies at 78; tax law expert, Supreme Court spouse
It's so rare to read the obituary of a man who is identified, right up there in the headline, as a spouse -- the supportive partner of a woman who is much more well-known.
The foundation of their relationship, they both said, was mutual respect and equality -- and a willingness to share domestic duties.
Ruth Bader Ginsburg is rightfully recognized as a remarkable public advocate for women's rights. But it seems she also had the great fortune to spend her private life with a man who lived by feminist principles.
[S]he recalled that Mr. Ginsburg, a gregarious varsity golf player, was "the only young man I dated who cared that I had a brain."
Behind every great man, or so the old adage goes, is a woman. But even today, it's tough to argue that the flip side is consistently true. Even the most accomplished professional women often have a hard time achieving equality in the domestic sphere. They're the ones who do the bulk of the child care, keep the bathroom clean, and do the bulk of the cooking. That's why these quotes from the Ginsburgs about their relationship are so, well, radical. Especially given the couple's age.
Mr. Ginsburg said he was proud of his wife's accomplishments and had no regrets about the compromises they made for each other.
"I have been supportive of my wife since the beginning of time, and she has been supportive of me," Mr. Ginsburg told the Times in 1993. "It's not sacrifice; it's family."
I eagerly await the day when relationships like the Ginsburgs' don't seem radical or surprisingly feminist but are the default approach to domestic life. My condolences to Justice Ginsburg on the loss of her husband. It sounds like he was a wonderful man.
--Ann Friedman
