This is an important point by Ann. "Rape" is often used to denote what the victim went through, rather than what the assailant did. So if the (let's just say) woman doesn't feel terrifically traumatized, or it wasn't violent, then it's not rape, but rather some sort of more complicated plane between regrettable sex and violent assault. But, in fact, "the definition of rape doesn't change depending on how you feel afterward. Rape is a nonconsensual sexual act." If you steal a TV, but the bookish type you took it from doesn't really miss it, it doesn't mean you're not a thief. And if you rape someone, but there are no repercussions, doesn't mean you're not a rapist.
