The Connection Gap: Why Americans Feel So Alone By Laura Pappano. Rutgers University Press, 224 pages, $26.00
Better Together: Report of the Saguaro Seminar on Civic Engagement inAmerica John F. Kennedy School of Government, Harvard University, 108 pages
More than 100 years ago, Friedrich Nietzscheobserved the gradual turning inward of the German population, away from an openneighborliness. He noted in Human, All Too Human that the clearest sign of this increasing social alienation was that people say "ironic things to the other, but neither of the two feel the other's irony." This sort of keen insight into daily life can reveal larger changes in the culture. Though the social worlds of latter-day Germany and present-day America are disparate, there are similarities, at least when it comes to the way a nation's culture helps to create an inward turn in the lives of its citizens.
In cities throughout the United States, some social observers claim,we've become less interested in the welfare of our neighbors and families. Thistrend has many worried, and in journalist Laura Pappano's book The ConnectionGap the quotidian details of middle-class American life are held up and examined from several angles. Pappano points out that we are spending more time in front of electronic screens than in front of people, more time obsessed with speed than with taking our time, more time thinking about ourselves and our images than about others and their well-being, and more time routing our lives around market values such as efficiency and convenience than around the human values of loyalty, trustworthiness, and empathy.
An elaboration upon an essay originally published in The Boston GlobeMagazine, Pappano's book exhibits both genuine concern and brave vulnerability in the face of America's waning civic engagement. Often the author's observations are rendered as nationally shared feelings: "We want to connect." "We feel vulnerable." "We shop for lovers and friends." "We live and consume our lives in the same breath."
She notes that the word community gets kicked around a lot. But unlike the communities that evolve from a shared experience of place and history, the current use of the term frequently involves only a "group of people" connected by an ethereal commitment to a certain brand, or participation in a shopping club or Web site chat room.
There's quite a bit of outside confirmation of Pappano's observations that oursocial health is ailing. It's not been this ill since the end of the nineteenthcentury, according to the recently published report Better Together, issued by the Saguaro Seminar, a group of 33 luminaries at Harvard University's John F. Kennedy School of Government. The report, the largest scientific survey ever conducted on civic engagement in America, was spearheaded by Robert D. Putnam (author of the much-discussed Bowling Alone). Findings of the multiyear study of tens of thousands of Americans reveal a dramatic decrease in what Putnam calls "social capital," a term that the Bowling Alone Web site says "emphasizes not just warm and cuddly feelings, but a wide variety of quite specific benefits that flow from the trust, reciprocity, information, and cooperation associated with social networks."
The authors of Better Together reveal that simple events like dinner parties have declined 25 percent since the mid-1960s; the number of people who serve as club officers, attend school or community meetings, frequent political events, or work with political organizations has dropped by 35 percent; and the number of times that friends get together during a typical week has dropped 45 percent since the mid-1970s. Furthermore, the report indicates that only about a third of Americans feel they can trust one another and asserts that Americans' perception of their fellow citizens as moral and honest individuals has fallen dramatically since the early 1950s.
The decline in civic engagement, the authors claim, is the result ofseveral factors: television taking the place of social gatherings as a form ofrelaxation; a shift from a more civic-minded generation of adults to a generation of baby boomers who are less so; the expanding load of work hours; andwomen's entry into the work world--an event, they purport, that has sappedneighborhoods of once-vital civic leadership. As well, car-centered cities andinsufficient amounts of communal space have had the effect of degrading and evenpreventing daily public interaction.
Pappano's method of close observation gets at some daily social illsand civic ailments, too: lack of general neighborliness, focus on the self overothers in the supermarket line, time constraints on leisure activity andcommunity involvement, "play dates" scheduled for children, the need for speed,the devaluation of everyday conversations, and the atomization of home and familylife by media technologies. Her approach--as opposed to the more academic tone ofthe Saguaro report--takes into account the nickels and dimes of social capital,putting an individual, contextualized face on what can sometimes seem like anabstract phenomenon.
To convey how longing for connection can result in divulging personaldetails to strangers, Pappano relates a tale about doing just that with asaleswoman at a clothing store. As an illustration of separate lives that inhabitthe same social space, she recalls waiting in her obstetrician's office andlistening in on the phone call of a woman who was speaking about the death of afriend. She reflects on the experience of online shopping and on the moralambivalence of consumer culture, claiming that her "wallet, in fact, is burstingwith cards showing that [she is] part of the family at half a dozen stores."
In addition to such observations and the statistics she gleaned from theDepartments of Commerce and Labor, some of Pappano's evidence about what might becalled the "social disconnect" derives from examples of television and printadvertising. She views the marketing efforts of companies like Pottery Barn,Crate and Barrel, and J. Crew as an attempt to foster a sense of personalauthenticity and long-standing connection by selling furniture that is"weathered" or has the look of yesteryear--of ancestral commitment. Pappano notesthat car advertisements increasingly "focus on interior amenities ... [such as]leg room, head room, cup holders, global satellite positioning systems, videoplayers, fanny warmers, and the like ... [and] never show the car's exteriorprofile." Such a concentration, she speculates, highlights the personal, hermeticspace of the car as more important than the safety of the car's overallconstruction. She believes that such advertisements alternately prey on desiresfor connection and nourish dreams of individual escape: "A recent television adfor Volvo depicts a single man driving a Cross Country station wagon to a remotespot to go canoeing."
If Pappano's book is to be faulted, it is on this point. Perhaps she puts toomuch credence in the belief that advertising is a good reflection of what ishappening in a culture, that it is a good barometer of our national identity orour social cohesion. This is especially so when considering her focus on J. Crew,Pottery Barn, or Volvo, companies that cater to the affluent. Though she notesearly on that she is looking mostly at the lives of "the most upwardly mobilemembers [of the middle class]," she claims that all Americans aspire to thisstandard of living. Unfortunately, none of the aspirants who are still shoppingat Wal-Mart make it into Pappano's narrative; attention to their lives might havelent more texture to the book. Nonetheless, as a testament to what it is like toexperience one's larger culture--and, more important, to project one'sculture--from a specific class, race, and geographical place, The Connection Gaphas a voice of fresh honesty, fallibility, and humanness that bears witness to cultural changes that affect a very visible and important segment of the American population.
On the broad scale, the book revisits some important questions:Are modern-day Americans increasingly less engaged with fellow citizens ineveryday life? Have technology's gadgets done us a disservice by promisingefficiency and order but delivering unreal expectations and complications? Arereal communities replaced by allegiances to imagined identities? Has the desirefor physical things replaced the appreciation of people's qualities in our lives? When considering such concerns, Pappano, while being careful not to waxnostalgic about the past, muses about why social connection matters. She impliesthat the need for connection is a hardwired existential or spiritual need.Appropriately, the book ends with the chapter "Bridging the Gap," in which theauthor offers solutions on how to mend the social fabric. She encourages, amongother things, reviving the art of conversation in the home and on the street, volunteering, becoming involved in local schools, deliberately slowing downduring the day, and more generously extending one's time and energies to others.Regardless of larger cultural influences, that's good advice.
The Connection Gap might occasionally exaggerate the degree to which Americans are suffering from lack of connectedness. The Saguaro report's Social Capital Community Benchmark Survey indicates that nationally 80 percent of respondents said that people in their neighborhood gave them a sense of community. Of respondents who had Internet access, 17 percent reported that they got a sense of community online. In addition, the number of charitable organizations created in recent years has dramatically increased.
It's been pretty clear for a while that Americans do have some realcivic-engagement problems. Yet it is also encouraging that according to recentstudies of civic innovation the tide is slowly turning, owing to the efforts ofsecular and faith-based grass-roots community organizations. In the end, thereremains a resonant ambiguity when weighing Pappano's observations with thefindings of the Saguaro report. In both our public and our private lives, we areleft to resolve--and mend--the tensions that exist in the state of our sharedunion.